Saturday, July 23, 2011

Hugs are the best.

What is life like for a SO in prison? As a mother I don't want to know but at the same time I need to know.

My son has only been in prison for two day when someone told him he was cute and ask him he was a homosexual! I don't want to hear this. Now he is telling me not to worry about him as he has made a friend with the one guy no one messes with. Great now how much is that going to cost my son for his friendship.

My son was watching Tv when he went to his common area room where his bed is. He found a note and some of his stiff is messing. The read read: He went to his new friend who has been behind bars a few times. He is one very tough guy you don't want as an enemy. Some how my son made a friend with this guy. Or at least I hope so. My son goes to the  friend ( Ned) tells him how they took some of his stuff.  Plus a note left on his bed,. "We now your a petal file, tale your stuff got stolen and it tell everyone."  Ned goes talk to some guys and gets his stuff back.  This bad guys were not expecting that.

Their bed have a box where you can put your stuff in but my son can't lock his yet. So now he is using Ned's lock box. Great now my son owns him twice.

My son goes to the library the next night and find a new note. "Listen chomo, if you're not out of here by  Wednesday, your dead" something else about the blood game is watching him and they called him the "N" word.

My son know they're not going to kill him but they could jump him any time, There are plenty of times when there are not guard around. My son goes to talk to Ned again about he should do. They decided it would be best for my son to tailed to the guards. Which is a big no n. But he wants to be put in Protective custody.  he waited for lights out. He took the note to a guard. The guard then took my son to another until. Not in PC but at least he is not around those guys anymore, And he isn't around Ned either.

One good thing about all of this,, well kind of.. He is off the hoe Squad,  In the new Unit everyone is on the kitchen crew. But since he now doesn't have a job,, Which he has to have one for 60 days before he can become a Class 1. I though it was called Level 1.      So now I need for him to get a job,, so he can home sooner.  Right now he is a Class 2.

Last week he send in a request to sign up for Stress management.  a few day later he got a notice saying he is on the waiting list for Anger management. This has stressed him out so much he is mad..  Quote from his letter. I love the way he can make me laugh.

Now to the good part of this blog. I GOT TO SEE MY SON TODAY!!  I got the best hug since April 1.  Have not gotten to touch him, give him a kiss or hug him since he was taken away.  now that he is in Prison, We get to set at a table. let me back up:

We got ready to leave the house this morning by 9;00. It took us 2 hours to get there. We were not sure how this works but had been reading where a cars start lining up at 11:00. Visits are from 12:00 to 4:00. We got there right about 11:00 and was 10th in line. Now we know we can get there at 11:45 and still make it on time.  At least we were able to set in a HOT car, read, knit.. while we waited. We parked the car and walked in. It was just like going to the airport, had to take our shoes off and we got patted down. They took our finger print. this whole process didn't take more the about 10 min. We then had to walk through 3 big gates.

We walked into a Cafeteria looking room. Our son was not there yet, but other inmates where there with family. We could order some lunch, and ice cream. We sat a small table. We waiting for our son what seem like hours. He finely walked into the room. He would of been there early but they made him shave. Like I really cared. He looks good, Has lost about 40 lbs. His hair is growing back but real slow. He gave his dad a big bear hug, and then Me.. the best HUG ever. If you every get a change to get a hug from my son, Its the best hug ever. His sister was next. We then sat down to order what we wanted. Our son, was shock by the food and how good it tasted, He ate some of my and his sister. We even got some  ice cream for him. All in all it was good 3 1/2 hour visit. We could even get our picture taken with a pretty garden background. We passed on this.

We get to see him again next weekend.  I can't wait for my hug again.

PS.. I can't believe I am about to hit 1,100 views. Thank for listening, And I hope you leave here learning something.



adamwalshact said...

Hey, I want to tell you some things.. contact me I am there is a new organization starting by a woman who is married to a RSO, she the new organization is just not starting, creating the website now.. you can find them and stay up to date by going to their facebook.. just go to facebook , seek out rso families you will find it... her email address is on the article on cfcamerica... contact her.. together you all can make a difference. Note, prison is bad, but being on the registry is worse.. we have to rid this nation of the registry.

momtosrs said...

Adam: I just want you to know that I am a fan on FB to cfcamerica, I am also a member On Sosen, RSOL, I am on the board of Arkansas Time after Time. Plus I will be at the the ST. Louis National Conference. I do want to thank you for reaching out to me just in case I didn't know about these group.