Friday, October 5, 2012

Advice for Mothers

For all the mother who just sent your sons to college. 

You hope that you have taught your son right from wrong. 
You hope he has been listing to you on different life lesson. 
You hope that in this next step into manhood, he is ready. 
 You hope.

I'm sure some of your last word to you son went something like this. 

" Don't do drugs, 
   Don't drink."

 And you forgot to add this, because boy will be boys, and you are sure he would know this any way

 "Oh and if you look at porn make sure it's 18 or over" 

I did say something to my son, but I wish I had said this.

" Do drugs,   
try them all, have fun. 
 Drink a lot, 

We can fix both of these if you get hooked. 
We can pay the fines , we can get you out of jail.  It's college. Go have fun.

 Now listen real close to this part.   

  • What you don't need to do is have sex, or think about sex.
  • Don't date
  • Don't be left along with a girl. 
  • Don't look at porn, I don't care the age.
  • Don't download music, matter of fact don't download anything. we can buy you the music.

  • Don't get into a relationship, and if you do don't have sex with her, but if you do, make  sure she is over the age of 18.
  • Don't break up with her, you will be better off if she break off with you, that way you know she won't accuse you of anything.
Be careful of what you want to become, if you want to be a teacher you might want to rethink that or even a coach.

Think about whether or not to get married, can your new wife be trusted? If you  ask for a divorce, will she be the kind of person to want revenge?

 Think before you have kids, again if something happen, will your wife make your kids say you did something to them? 

" But mom, if I do what you tell me, that won’t be a life,"

" I know son, but if you don't listen to me, you might become a sex offender and that life will be hell. I know, you have dreams of having a loving wife, 2.5 kids, a nice job, great friends. But son, You might want to become gay. It just might be safer."

Mom, talked to your son. You just might save their life.   

You hope. 


As much truth in in what I have to say about Doing Drug, I do not condone doing Drug or drinking.  I do know it both are very hard to stop once you start. The only reason I said the above is on the Law side of it. People who do drink or do drug seem to have it much easier once they get caught (This is base on a First Time offense. They might spend the a few night in jail. They might get a fine. All in all they can get on with their life. 
Unlike a First time offense for a Sex crime.

 As I was looking for picture for this blog, I found this one, I know it has nothing really to do with this blog but then it has everything to do with it, Plus I found it funny. 


Anonymous said...

There are many things I wish I had told my's too late now....his life is forever ruined.

momtosrs said...

Hello Anonymous, I hate to hear that his life if over. With the fight we are doing I have hope that thing will get better. For your son and my. One day the sun will shine on our son and they will makes us so proud.

Concerned Mom said...

My son had the same thing happen to him. He was a senior in high school at the time. After 5 years of college and a huge amount of student loan debt, he is struggling to find a descent paying job. I am struggling to see him hurting so much. I am hoping by following this blog I can get some encouragement to help him! The tears are just falling right now. He had an interview earlier this week, but even though he is no longer required to register, it's still all over the Internet. How can they ever put this behind them? Isn't there any forgiveness in the world anymore? Is there someone with compassion who will hire them and offer a descent wage?

momtosrs said...

Concerned Mom. You are making me cry. I am so sorry to hear about your story. I would love to talk to you. There are lots of groups that offer help. I do not know what state you are in. I am going to share some links for you to check out just in case you never heard of them. If you want, you can make another comment on my blog. I approve all comment BEFORE they get posted, I am the only one who will see it, If you want to leave me your email address or talk some more by comments that will be fine. Again, it just breaks my heart to hear of another mother going through the same thing.

Michelle Tri said...

My heart and prayers go out to you. My family struggles with similar challenges. I truly was naive. I agree the law has taken this too far. I continue to meet new, amazing people such as yourselves and I am grateful for your support. I have a lot of different emotions within, however you sharing your story offers me peace within. Thank you and remain standing!

Anonymous said...

Your blog has brought tears to my eyes. My son is going through the federal court system now. I was blind and had no idea what was (or may) happen. I (my son and I) are fortunate that I was in contact with the most wonderful, big hearted, kind person in the world who has been a huge support for both of us. I can't be there with him (he lives in another state), she has become somewhat of a surrogate mom for him and I will be forever grateful to her.
I spend so much time crying, being angry and confused over this. I would never have thought that individuals who "view" are incarcerated as long as, often even more, than say a rapist... how can this happen? I'm sorry for rambling, this is all so new to me.