I got it!!

After thinking about it, I came up with the solution to this whole problem. Since we as a nation would like to know where all the S.O. are in our country let put a big S on their forehead.No matter what kind of crime they did.  That way they are mark for all to see, and if we do that I would like to know where all the drug dealer are.. so a big D can go on their head. And lets not stop there. How about Alcoholics.. a big A.  That way if some one were to look at you funny you will know what kind of person they are.

But I think we need to go even further,  I would like to know who the people are that Judge others. a big J.. and how about liars. "L" and two face people "2", 

No mater what they have done, lets make their life a miserably hell also.. it is only fair.

If we want to label S.O. then I say lets label everyone. That way you can feel safe when a stranger walks into to the room.

As a Nation we are getting carried away. The next time you see someone who you don't know, just think about it, They could be any of those that I mention above, But they could also have grown up since they did the crime, but they will always be mark for life.  This could be your son, husband, father, or even you sister, mother. This person is not a stranger to you but they are to others. Would you want your love one to walk around with this mark on their head for life?  Would you not want our country to give your love one another chance?

With all the mark on everyone head; it reminds me of Dr.Seuss, the Sneetches

That the Sneetches got really quite smart on that day.
The day they decided that Sneetches are Sneetches.
And no kind of Sneetch is the best on the beaches.
That day, all the Sneetches forgot about stars and whether
They had one, or not, upon thars.”
—The Sneetches

if only we all can live like the Sneetches. All in peace. But that is a dream on another planet 

could not say it better

 Messing around on the internet today, I can across this lady.  I could not say it better then she does.

http://www.creators.com/opinion/diane-dimond/time-to-adjust-our-thinking-about-sex-abusers.html

What do I want to change in the law?

I have been giving this a lot thought.

1. To do away with the register. And here why: they do not keep it up to date. They don't tell you what all the person did. For example it might say "had sex with a minor". What it doesn't tell you: that he was 19 at the time, his girlfriend was 16. And he is now 35 years old. Why does he still need to be on the list?

2. They need help. People on drug get help. I have seen it in court. If you go thought re-hap they will let you go. So why can't SO? Why do they have to go to prison to get help? Arkansas is about the only state to offer help. Which is good But ,why can't they get help first?

I also would like to say. I know what my son did was bad. He does need to do his time in prison. But at the same time i wish he could get help first without having to go to prison to get it

After reading and learning so much about the law and how it effect not only the SO but.
their family. Well it just breaks my heart. Once they have done their time they should be able
to get on with their life. The ones who should be on the list are the dangerous one. The one who kidnap, rape over and over, kill. We don't put drug dealers on a list. Wouldn't you like to know who is selling drugs to your kids?

I have a question for you. How many times in the day do you see someone who you don't trust?. Just by the way he looks. Acts. Or just because?. Does that make that person a bad person..... No but in your eyes you don't trust him. Did you know that person is loved by others. His family. He could be someone dad. Brother, Uncle. Or best friend. He is just a stranger to you. Give that person a smile or just say hi. See what happen. I bet not a damn thing but you just might get a smile or hi back. Remember don't judge until you know the whole story

my heart

My heart is in Conway jail.

I got a phone call today from the Gov. Beebe's office. I have talked to this guy before. He is just doing his job, but at least my letter are getting read.

I just wish I could find someone with Compassion, someone who will look at the person and not the crime.
The only one who truly understand are the one going though them self or with there own family.

I keep fighting, but am I doing any good? Is it going to be worth it? All this sadness I live every day, will it end?

I know I and many other in my shoes all have a long road ahead of us, some have been on this road longer then I have.. but I am tried of this road, with the dirt, bumps, rocks and things in the way, I want my nice smooth, flat, sunny shining road back.

By the way: Just to add to my heart ache,  I might have to put down my 12 year old Golden Ret/mix. We got her 11 years ago from the pound. She has cancer in the month. I have paid 300.00 for the vet to removed it, but it came back fast. Now I could paid another 400.00 to have her upper jaw removed or put her down.

Just kick me when I.m down.. It doesn't hurt as much.

is it a bad dream or is it an April fool joke ??

How did we get where we are at?
March 31 the night before April fools day. 9:30 I get a phone call from the Conway county jail telling me that my son is making a collect call. At first I though he had found a program to make it seem like a collect call. That would be something he would do. When I start talking to him I can't tell if he is laughing or crying. It doesn't take me long to realize that he is crying and this is for real.

You know when they said your life can change in a moment. Well it can.

He keep calling us over and over because we only got one minute a phone call. Then they wouldn't let us talk until we put money on an account. We called the jail to tell them to tell him about his one free phone call. So we finally got to talk to him about what was going on.

By10:30 we had a lawyer. Told him everything would be OK. That is one phone I never want to get. Never though I would get. Still after one year can't believe we are living this nightmare.

The next day we meet with the lawyer. We could not see our son but the lawyer could. He went and talk to him. The next day was his first of many court appearance. His bond was going to be set that day. I was not looking forward to seeing him in the black and White jumpsuit but at the same time I needed to be strong for him and me. I wanted to see my baby boy. To give him a hug. To tell him that someone made a mistake and this will all go away.

They would not bring the inmate to the court room that day. But had them on camera. I got to see my son on TV. In hand cuff. Took every thing I had to hold it together. After his bond was set. We got the paper work done and waited for him
to walk out of jail. The first words out of his month was sorry. I told him he didn't need to tell me. I knew he was. I just wanted him home

We had to stop by the college to get his stuff. The college is the one who turned him in. His phone and backpack was at the college Police station. We had plan on going by getting his stuff. His keys. Going to eat as we were getting hungry.

When we got to the college Police they would not let us out of their sight. My son had to sign paper that he would not step foot back on campus. We had to go with a police officer to his apartment to clean it out right now. Thank goodness I had a big car and so did my son. As we were not aloud to come back the next day.

And that is how the nightmare started. And I can't seem to stop having the same dream over and over again. Someone please wake me up and tell me it was just a dream or a bad April fool joke

My letter got read

I write a new letter once a week to about 40 Legislator people. This is my letter that I email out this Monday. 

As you can tell I write it for one size fit all..

I understand you are a busy person with a lot on your plate. I would love to be able to set down with you and talk about the Sex offender laws. Your time is limited so I will write you this letter. 

August is when the new law goes into effect that will be letting some of the prisoner go. How about Sex Offender? How about the one who didn't do anything that was real bad.

(1) The "Romeo & Juliet cases", when a young man ends up on the registry for having a consensual relationship with a "barely underage" girlfriend;

(2)  Juveniles on the registry, and especially children who are treated as criminals for "playing doctor" with a young friend;

 (3) Absurd cases, especially people who are on the registry for public urination, breast feeding, or "mooning.

(4) The Under 25 age who were looking at porn. Their life just getting started.

All of these people are on the Sex Offender list.  I wish there was some way you could make a law where "one size fits all" but the laws doesn't work that way.

My 21 year old son has been setting in Conway jail waiting for room to open up in Pine Bluff  to get evaluated. He was in college when he got caught looking at underage porn. Just like any other 21 year old male.  He would have been a candidate for a rehab class. Instead he has to go to prison for the rehab class. Then for the next 15 years or life be a registered sex offender for a level one. The more I find out about the Evaluating at Pine Bluff, They will make him a level 3, because they will THINK he might do worse.

I am learning more every day about Sex Offenders. The ones who scare me the most are the one who rape underage kids, The ones who kidnap kids, The ones who victimize kids.

Please, would you take part of your time and look at this law on Sex Offenders. The ones on the list who don't need to be on it. Try to make their life a little easier.  The level 1 and 2, let them do their time and let them go on with their life.

Thank you for reading my letter. That part mean a lot to me.

Jane Smith

Then I get a email from another Senator,

Dear Mrs.Smith

I am very sorry to hear about the issues you are dealing with in regards to your son.

If I am not mistaken, I have responded to you before.  However, I am copying our senate staff in this response so that we can review our files to see what action or response we may or may not have taken.

It seems to me that your story is best heard during a committee meeting so that your opinions may be recorded and considered by the legislature.  Would you be willing to testify in front of a legislative committee about your concerns?

Our staff will do a review and get back with me about the status of any prior response.  I hope you will also advise me if you would like to testify in front of a committee about this.

Also, have you contacted your own senator or representative about this?

Respectfully,

Senator R. J.

   YES,, I  would love to speak in from of the committee and have at least two other people who would love to be heard also.

I will do whatever I can do get the word out of this.

 You are not the only one I write to, I send my letters to about 40 committee members.

Thank You so much for giving me this opportunity.

Jane Smith

Mrs. Smith

Since you are willing to testify, I will ask the staff to help identify the best opportunity for you to do so.  The legislature is not in session at this time, but there may be an opportunity for you to speak to this matter before and interim committee.

Thanks,

 Respectfully,

Senator R.J.

The Senator

Just got off the phone with The Senator Sue

Like talking to a brick wall.  She started telling me about the ONE place in US that monitories for active over the net.  I could not get a word in,, to tell her maybe we need more than ONE place.

I guess they caught a couple in TX who had a great business going with taken picture of kids and selling them. That’s great. I told her, That is the bad people we need to be going after.

I brought up that I  heard of a church  (http://freerangekids.wordpress.com/)  who isn’t letting one man in the child care area,  so what they are saying is that EVERY MAN in the US is a bad guy.

That Maine passed a law where if you are starring at a kid you could be arrested. She tell me we are not Maine..  NO we are not but it won’t take us long to get there if we don’t do something about it now.

I told her that 80% of the internet is porn.. She asked me who is the one person  that is more likely to offender on a child. I said someone the child knows..   NO a teenage boy.  (now I have never heard that one before and find it hard to believe.  But since I didn’t have any facts on this, I didn’t say anything.)

I did tell her that my Sister in law who is a social worker for kids. Is still willing to let my son see her two little girls. His cousin,,,, who love him dearly. He is like the Uncle you wish you could have. Plays with them,, picks on them. Play videos game.. reads to them. He is great with kids.  Now if she is still able to truth my son with her two girls, then he can’t be all that bad.

She did tell me that she will not be running again in 2013   YEA!!  LOL    But I told her that I would like for her to think before she signs a bill,, that is all I am asking.

She had to leave as her daughter was calling.. or that is what she was telling me.. Maybe I was getting to her. LOL