Up date
Since my blog still gets read ever now and then, I thought I would give everyone a update.

My son has been out of prison for about 4 years now.  He spent 10 months behind those bars.  It was a long 10 months for him and for me. I do know others  have been in prison a lot longer then my son. My hearts goes out to each one.

I am now the Director of a State advocacy group. We testify in front of our local congressman to tell them our stories and to present them with studies that shows that the laws that we have in place are not working.  If you want to join in this fight with us. RSOL is the national group you can look up to see if your state has a contact person for you to talk to.

My son is doing fine. He is now 26 and is the assistant manager of a convenient store. He is saving his money to buy a house soon. I am very proud of him. It is not the life, I wish for him, which is one reason I fight these laws, For him and other like him.

Wake up people

Today,  compared to any other day, I read a lot of news,  I listen to stories from the people who call me. It sad to read and listen. 

Today is different. Today, my eyes are open even more to this crazy American we live in. It pains me to see the trouble my son has to live with every day for the mistake he made. At the same time I am grateful to him for open my eyes to the world around me.  

 I would say my eyes are so open, I can now see the light. That is not true. My eyes are so open to see the darkness this American is headed.

Today, I read an article about a Texas School who want their kids to wear a special ID necklace so they can track them where every they are. If the kid is late coming to school, The ID will wake them up. Now on paper this sounds like a good idea, but is happening to our Personal privacy and personal freedoms?

If successful, the tracking program could save the district as much as $175,000 lost daily to low attendance figures, which in part determine school funding. Higher attendance could lead to more state funding in the neighborhood of $1.7 million.

All about the money, The heck with teaching the kids’ stuff that would make them want to come back. Or offer help to the kids who might live in a trouble home and can’t make it to school, because of number of reason. Nope all about the money. 

Now I would not write right about just this story alone. I said above this day is different. After I read this story, that was sent to me by email. I go to Facebook and come across this story.

Everyone wants their child to succeed, and while that may look different for each kid, it shouldn't be based on how they look.

"The students should be measured for where they are, because the color of your skin doesn't determine that," she said.

A school board want to lower the standard for each color of skin. I would call this racist! If you really wanted to improve education, it would start by improving the standard of living for ALL students. A kid who is tired and hungry and stressed from poverty conditions is not going to perform up standard in school.  

 Again, all about the money. 

Why not used the money to help the kids at HOME.

The two stories have so much in common. 

Where is American going? 

Not UP, but down,, way down. I don’t like this, don’t like it at all.

Advice for Mothers

For all the mother who just sent your sons to college. 

You hope that you have taught your son right from wrong. 

You hope he has been listing to you on different life lesson. 

You hope that in this next step into manhood, he is ready. 

 You hope.

I'm sure some of your last word to you son went something like this. 

" Don't do drugs, 

   Don't drink."

 And you forgot to add this, because boy will be boys, and you are sure he would know this any way. 

 "Oh and if you look at porn make sure it's 18 or over" 

I did say something to my son, but I wish I had said this.

" Do drugs,   

try them all, have fun. 

 Drink a lot, 

We can fix both of these if you get hooked. 

We can pay the fines , we can get you out of jail.  It's college. Go have fun.

 Now listen real close to this part.   

• What you don't need to do is have sex, or think about sex.
• Don't date
• Don't be left along with a girl. 
• Don't look at porn, I don't care the age.
• Don't download music, matter of fact don't download anything. we can buy you the music.

• Don't get into a relationship, and if you do don't have sex with her, but if you do, make  sure she is over the age of 18.
• Don't break up with her, you will be better off if she break off with you, that way you know she won't accuse you of anything.

Be careful of what you want to become, if you want to be a teacher you might want to rethink that or even a coach.

Think about whether or not to get married, can your new wife be trusted? If you  ask for a divorce, will she be the kind of person to want revenge?

 Think before you have kids, again if something happen, will your wife make your kids say you did something to them? 

" But mom, if I do what you tell me, that won’t be a life,"

" I know son, but if you don't listen to me, you might become a sex offender and that life will be hell. I know, you have dreams of having a loving wife, 2.5 kids, a nice job, great friends. But son, You might want to become gay. It just might be safer."

Mom, talked to your son. You just might save their life.   

You hope. 

  

As much truth in in what I have to say about Doing Drug, I do not condone doing Drug or drinking.  I do know it both are very hard to stop once you start. The only reason I said the above is on the Law side of it. People who do drink or do drug seem to have it much easier once they get caught (This is base on a First Time offense. They might spend the a few night in jail. They might get a fine. All in all they can get on with their life. 

Unlike a First time offense for a Sex crime.

 As I was looking for picture for this blog, I found this one, I know it has nothing really to do with this blog but then it has everything to do with it, Plus I found it funny. 

Are you a Free Range person?

Are you a Free Range Person?   I am. 

Free-Range Kids is a commonsense approach to parenting in these overprotective times.

What is different today then yesterday? Yesterday as in 30/40 years ago. I could list all the nice thing we have now, computer, cell phones, better coffee markers etc; but I'm more interesting in what we left behind. The good old days. 

The day where you felt safe to leave your kids in the car while you paid for gas. You let your kids ride their bike to the local store to get candy and milk. Those are the days I'm talking about. 

The funny thing is nothing has change, we can still have those days. I was walking into the post office the other night; It was late, around 9:30 pm. I needed to check my P.O. Box. I parked the car and notice another car in the parking lot. My first thought was not to get out. Then I stop, a person is not going to be waiting at the post office for someone to jump on. So I went in. When I walked in a man was walking around, he asked me if I knew where the stamp machine was. "I don't think they have one here". Oh we'll then I guess I'll have to buy some tomorrow. I got my mail and left. I was not scared and I shouldn't be. The post office at 9:30 was/ is not a danger spot.  

So what has change? Crime is not worst now then it was years ago, so why are we so afraid to let our kids ride their bike?  I'll tell you. The media, How bad they want you to think it is.  

You watch the news, you find out that something has happen to ONE child, Now they make you think it happens all the time, but it’s one child out of thousands in the country. The news is the same every night, It would make one not want to leave the house or eat

Now stop a minute and think.

Has your house been broken into?

Has your car been stolen?

Have you been kidnap?

Do you know someone who has commented a crime?

DUI, Drugs, or a sex crimes?  The chances of you knowing someone who has commented a crime is probable higher then knowing someone who has been a victims of a crime. Why is this?, Because most crimes are not crimes, We just like to throw people in jail because we are “tough on Crimes”  We are arresting people left and right for what we would said is normal behavior years ago, or we would get help for that individual.

So tell me what are you afraid of?  I’m more afraid of committing a crime, then become a victim. 

But hey what do I know,, I don't work in the media.

MEN, can't live with them...

Men, why are they Important ?
I have giving this much thought. The simple answers is yes they are; but why am I asking the question? Another not so simple answer, media would have you think they are NOT important, that the truth is they are all a sexual predator.



You think that society knows that men are important but this same society fear Men in general., why,? because of what they hear from the media.
 What is going to happen when all our men are gone or in prison. Who will kills bugs for us.?

Parents are telling young kids that men are bad. What is going to happen to this kid,  when he grows up to become the man his mother warmed him about, or the girl who want to married a man?

With the woman movement, I believe, all woman really wanted was equal right in the works force. Now fast forward 44 years;  Woman,  have taken this too far, woman now want power over men, Not equal.  Woman have found this power being able to accuse a man of doing something  that he didn't do, just because she has found this new power.

 a blog, I came across.

Every kid need a male around, as a dad or as a role model. I could make a list as to why men are important , but I won't. You and I both know they are without me listing every detail big or small.

It sad when you hear that men are afraid to be around kids. These are men who have not been convective of any type of crime. The media has parents in such fear that we are losing Male teachers,  Male coaches, and boy scout leaders....even daddies to this fear. Men who are great men. Who can gives a kid something a woman can't.  Again not listing.

I'm ashamed to even call myself a woman., but I know I am not one of those woman who have taken the fear the media has been feeding me and used that fear to hurt the men in my life or the males in my kids life.

The way I see things woman have come so far. For every step forward we have taken, we are sending men backwards.